"I love you."
"Oh! I wanna keep
looking at you."
"You are very loving.
I wanna talk to you once."
"Oh! I wanna keep
talking to you."
"I wanna be with you
forever."
"I wanna hug you."
"Just a hug is not
enough. I wanna get merged into you."
But how?
Physical bodies can’t get merged into each other. It’s
matter (Earth, Water, Fire, Air and Space). Even having sex with each-other
doesn’t work. Heart keeps on longing to get closer and closer and tries to
express more and more. Love longs to come closer and closer until lovers get
dissolved into each other.
But how?
Longing also brings pain with it, unbearable pain. Where
does this pain come from? What can stop this pain? If bodies cannot be merged, can
merging of souls stop this pain?
Wait! Does the sentence “Merging of souls” make any sense?
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Is it true OR just an illusion? |
Coming close only makes sense when there are two. It doesn’t
make any sense for the Atma (Soul), because it is one (absolute). There are no
two. Coming close makes sense only for relative things (for this illusory
world), not for the absolute (Brahman/Atma/God).
Anyways! Let’s give it a chance and think of dissolving of
souls into each other. Suppose that it is possible. But, the self (soul) of
everyone is the same. When I am also the same what he/she is, then why I’m
craving to get close to him/her?
Also, when the self in everyone is the same, then why did I
fall into love with this particular person? I would have fallen in love with a
person of my gender or I would have fallen in love with a person who looks
uglier than the person I am in love with. Is it lust (be it in a negligible amount)
which makes me fall for any particular person/qualities? Lust here doesn’t refer
to sexual desires only. It can be about money, fame, and other needs or may be
some unique qualities of the person you love. What if it is not love but very
intense attachment? Be it emotional or physical, but very strong attachment
that you start using terms like “soul-mate” for them.
Can owning the person physically, emotionally stop the pain
and this longing for love?
NO!
Know that, you are not longing for a person or a thing. You
are longing for love/contentment. Rather I should say unconditional, infinite
love and uninterrupted contentment. Only few people can understand this. We
seek for infinite love and contentment. When we see an expression of the same in
some person or thing, we think that owning the person or thing will fulfill my
desire. This illusion covers our mind that that person is love. Know that, it
is not the person/thing. It is divine showing a glimpse of itself in that
person. It is not about getting the person. It is about neutralizing the
seeking for love/contentment. Will you long for that person without his/her soul? NO. You won't love his/her dead body, because you know the body is not that person I loved.
There is a very interesting, short and sweet story.
In the middle of the night, Jasraj was searching for
something under a street-light. When asked for what he was searching, he replied:
“I’m searching for my keys”.
Where have you lost them?
“Inside the house” Jasraj replied.
Then, why are you searching for them here outside?
“Because it’s light out here.”
We all do this same stupidity almost every time. Don’t we? Sometimes,
to be more stupid, we leave old street-light blaming it for being cruel and
start searching for keys under another street-light. I am not saying not to go under street-light. Go. Enjoy. But,
don’t search for keys there. Search for the keys inside the house. Search for
LOVE and Contentment within yourself. That is the best way to stay happy
forever. Then you start feeling full of love and joy.
I don’t deny the concept of soul-mate either. There can
be very strong connection of you and someone else. But your ultimate soul-mate
is YOU/God/Love. You are an ocean full of water. Why to search for it
anywhere outside. Look inside. You have all that you want.
Observe your feelings,
seeks, emotions, wants. Think of the origin of those feelings. Spend time with
them. Whenever a feeling of love pops-up in us, we go and express
it out. The moment you express it, the feeling gets neutralized. It’s gone.
Hang on! Wait.
Be with that feeling. Do not express it for
some time. Spend time with it. Understand it. Find the origin of the feeling.
Observe how it gets changed when you express it. Do more and more experiments
on it. I tell you, this is very interesting journey, endless like universe.
Experiences you get in this journey will make your life full
of Love and Joy. You start feeling love with every particle of the creation.
You stop seeking for love then, you start giving it.
When you love someone unconditionally. When there are no
expectations of getting anything in return, “I” in you start dissolving. Ego
dies. That’s why it pains. Bear this pain. It is for a very short time span.
The life after crossing this river of pain is very joyful and colourful.
A sufi writer Zahin writes:
“Seekh Zahin ke dil
se jalna, Kaahe ko har Shamma pe jalna.
Apni aag mein khud
jal jaaye, Tu aisa Parwana ban ja.”
(Learn, Zaheen (the intelligent one) to burn from the heart. Why burn for every flame?
Instead, become the moth that burns in its own fire.)